I am not POPULAR

Over the weekend, some of my friends dropped in with their kids for lunch and we had a great time catching up with each other. While playing around with kids one of my friend asked her First Grade daughter “Alicia” about how was her first day at the new school. She asked her which of her friends were in her class. She named two.

I asked, if she played with the other friends at recess and enjoyed her day. She said “No”. I asked specifically about one friend she played with when she was in kindergarten. She immediately replied – “No, she’s with the popular kids.”

I did a double-take and asked her to repeat herself. I didn’t hear her wrong. She was talking about popular kids… can you imagine that too in the first grade… My friend gave a typical Mom response that was something like “There is no such thing as popular and not popular. You are only in first grade.” Alicia assured us that such things did exist.

This honestly blew me away. What are we teaching or not teaching our children? Why does an eight year old girl need to get hair coloured? Why does an eight year old girl need to show off her parent’s wealth? As parents, do we look at the carefree life of our children?

Most of the time, I have seen and heard parents say – “Oh, just fed up. I can’t wait until he grows up, gets a job and then comes home and clears his stuff”. I think, instead we should be enjoying these beautiful childhood memories with them. Their childhood would never come back. Let them be just children, have fun, love, laugh, cry, play, dance, sing, eat, magic… Have you ever noticed, their eyes are so magical… their face is so expressive… their smile is so innocent… the cuteness in them…

Don’t bother if they don’t listen to you… bother when they are watching you.

Don’t bring them into your world. Time flies… they grow up too quickly. Don’t push them down that road too soon. And please don’t let your eight year old daughter act snobby so she can be popular.

  • Teach your children to be nice and greet other children even if they didn’t know them.
  • Teach them to be friendly and not rude.
  • Teach them to be confident and believe in themselves.
  • Teach them to express gratitude.
  • Teach them to accept others as they are (so what if a child is handicap – that is normal to be for the handicap child. For that child, others may be abnormal.)
  • Spend time with them. Listen and talk to them.
  • Understand what’s going on in their life.
  • Teach them to be kids, have fun and deal with their own little world.
  • Teach them to say Affirmations daily.

Saying affirmations will help them to improve their life and become better individuals. They need to have faith and confidence in themselves.

Affirmations are positive statements about who we are, and what we can become and experience.  They help us focus on what we want.  The key is using affirmations effectively to have them evoke positive emotions within them, increase their positive vibrations, increase their focus, attract experiences that bring abundance, prosperity, success, good health and help them in leading a peaceful and harmonious life.

It is important to monitor and choose our thoughts as much as possible… and yes, you can also practice along with your children.

When children are feeling down, angry or upset, using affirmations and positive visualizations can change their focus from what they do not want to what they DO want. Changing their thoughts to positive, happier thoughts – puts them in a good vibrational place to attract that which they desire.

When you use affirmations and positive self-talk, children learn how to do this for themselves. Affirmations work very rapidly with young children because they still remember the truth of their inner power, abundance and love.  Reinforcing these positive thoughts and feelings gives children the self-confidence, positive attitude and beliefs which help them create joyful experiences.

Lets affirm…

“I am bright, brilliant, confident and beautiful. Everyone loves me”

“I am a CHILD of GOD, I am SAFE”

“Everyone loves, values, respects, and supports me”

“I am safe”



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Pooja Shende
Pooja Shende is the Founder of Lotus Soul 9. She is an Entrepreneur, Author, Keynote Speaker, a Transformation Coach, Practitioner Of Emotional Intelligence, and Practitioner of NLP. Read more about her by clicking on the About Us tab.

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